"WAIT!!! THAT WASN'T YOUR CAR???"

Why do men create false images to get women?

How many of you ladies have come across a guy or two, who when you first met was dressed fly and driving a fancy car, but when you get involved you find out it was a rental and they only dressed for an occasion? Well I know quite a few and I used to wonder why do guys need to lie about who they really are? But then the answers hit me :-)

1. A lot of girls won't look twice if they see you in a 1991 Honda Civic.
2. If have a great paying job, they won't consider it (no one wants a broke brotha).
3. Unfortunately/fortunately, a lot of us are shallow (just like men :-)).

Point is, naturally no one wants some one who can't take care of themselves or others if needed; but with that being said, now a days it's all about the bling and fancy cars, not about the personality. Sad to say, but true.

A lot of us women loose out on Good, hard working men because we're caught up looking for material things and the fact of the matter is a lot of these guys are working hard towards making their futures bright but it might not be evident at that point in time. Keep in mind everyone has different circumstances as to why their in the position their in.

THAT BEING SAID! Men please, there's a line drawn between "hard working" and "lazy". If there's no legit reason for you not having a job, being over 25 and living in your mama's house, Your lazy! And you can't possible expect to pick up a lady with that!

But now I pose another question, is lying necessary and does it have to be done in order to get a woman?

Well it really depends on how badly you want that woman, but you know what they say, Good things come to those who wait!

Ps: Yes, I know women do it too.. But as you can see the question asks about men...

The "N" Word

How many people think its ok to use the word ‘nigger’, 'negro', 
 ‘nigga’ or ‘niggaz’?


I know a lot of black people use these words and I know all the "reasons" as to why it is accepted or ok to say. 

"It's not 'nigger', we say 'nigga' so it's different".

"We use it as ours now, we've changed the meaning".

"Why can't we use it? That was the past, it doesn't matter".

What do I think? I think black people need to stop using excuses and realize the seriousness of the past. Our ancestors, whether you come from America or The Caribbean or even Africa, slaved and fought for us to have the basic rights we have today. Simple things like having an education, being able to ride at the front of a bus, using a bathroom and not being called a NIGGER. The word Nigger was created by white people and created to show the depth of the hatred and disgust they felt towards blacks.

Black people struggled for the word "nigger" to no longer be used to describe them and here we are using the word used to define them as trash. What would they say or think if they were to come back now and look at how we're living? Sad to say I believe many of them are turning in their graves. Nigga, Niggaz, what ever  you call doesn't make it acceptable; a word like that should not have a new meaning or should not be embraced by us. Why not just create a new word? I think by now everyone is creative enough I mean come on look how many slang words there are. And what really gets to me is when a black person who uses the word, hears a white person use it and then flips! If you use why can't they? They created it! Don't tell me the word no longer means this or that... It means what it means and you can't change that.

Fact of the matter? Any word used to disgrace another race should not be used or embraced by anyone whether they change a letter or the meaning or what ever. Stop making excuses and realize the seriousness of the matter, to you it might just be a word, but it was and is so much more than that; it was part of a REVOLUTION. Embrace the past, and let it make you a better person.

THINK ABOUT! 

Some web definitions (according to dictionary.com):

Revolution: an overthrow or repudiation and the thorough replacement of an established government or political system by the people governed.

Nigger: Slang; Extremely Disparaging and Offensive; a black person.

a member of any dark-skinned people. Slang: Extremely Disparaging and Offensive . a person of any race or origin regarded as contemptible, inferior, ignorant, etc.

a victim of prejudice similar to that suffered by blacks; a person who is economically, politically, or socially disenfranchised.

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''I Am Not My Cloths''

Just because you dress a certain way, does it mean you are that way?

Often times I believe it's not so. Many people who dress certain ways are not exactly what their cloths make them to be. Some who dresses Gothic like in all black may not necessarily be a mean person, or someone who dresses provocatively may not be looking for the attention. But although your cloths don't necessarily define who you are as a person, don't you believe it says a little about you?

We are all aware that we are judged firstly on appearance, that's just how the mind operates, after all you know nothing about a stranger at first, your mind can only form an image of what it believes one personality could be.

But my question is this, if a girl goes out in a miny skirt and a hulter top,and then say's ''why are all these guys bothering me'', and gets upset, it leads me to ask the question, did she not know that men will stare and comment? If a guy goes out in baggy jeans down to his butt, and a t-shirt and fitted, then say I'm not a thug, did they not know that that s societies perception of a thug? The conduct or dressing of a certain individual groups have been made and set by society. A thug is usually seen as one who has his pants hanging down and wear big cloths, when someone says the word prostitute the first thing that comes to mind is revealing cloths.

The point I'm trying to make is everyday we are judged by people who can really only get a sense of who we are by our appearance and whether or not we would like to admit it, appearance does matter and you will be judged by it at some point whether you like it or not; it is how the human mind works. It's up to you, whether what you are perceived to be by others will affect you positively or negatively; and if it does affect you negatively you may want to change your wardrobe.

Some web definitions (according to dictionary.com):


Provocative: Arousing sexual desire or interest, esp. deliberately.


Perceive: Become aware or conscious of (something); come to realize or understand.

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"Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater"

How accurate is that statement really?

  

Many people believe that once somebody cheats they'll do it again, but does that really pertain to everyone?

I believe it depend on the situation because as we all know everyone is different. I Know everyone has their "gender reasons" as to why cheating happens. For men, they cheat because they can't stay with one person, for women its an emotional thing; at the end of the day I think it's society who has us thinking this way. There are dozens of reasons as to why different people cheat, some reasons for cheating are just more common than others.   

At the end of the day I believe its about the sincerity of the apology and the situation.

Some web definitions (according to dictionary.com)

Cheater: A person who acts dishonestly in order to gain an advantage


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Independent Women

Do females these days take the "independent woman" theme out of hand?

 

How many of you Guys know an "Independent Woman"? Now I'm not talking about a woman who can hold her own, provide for herself etc, I'm talking about those women who take it to a whole different level. Those who "don't need a man", the "men are useless" type of women. 

Unfortunately in today's society many women are like this, and who is to blame? Let's see...

Some web definitions (according to dictionary.com) 

Independent: Free from outside control; not depending on another's authority

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Chivalry Is Dead.

A lot of women say chivalry is dead, is this true?

Just some thoughts on the statement "chivalry is dead", I had to think about it and realized it is dead, but the real question is, Why? who's to blame? Well I think both men and women are to blame; both for different reasons but still both are to blame. 

Just some definitions for you guys (according to dictionary.com) :

Chivalry: the combination of qualities expected of an ideal knight, esp courage, honor, justice, and a readiness to help the weak; courteous behavior, esp towards women

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"Survival Of The Fittest"

What does a relationship need to survive?

 

 

What does your relationship need to survive? The most common but incorrect answers for this question is, 'love'. If we all sit and think about it, love often proves not enough for a relationship to survive; how many times do we hear, "I love you, but i can't be with you because...". Love isn't enough for a relationship to survive and in order for one to have a successful relationship, a firm foundation has to be set to carry the "weight" that a relationship often brings. 

How many times do we ask ourselves or wonder why didn't our relationship work out with this person, whether it be a friend, family member or partner. In the video I listed the three things I believe are most important for  a relationship of any type to survive.

Some web definitions (according to dictionary.com) :

Survive: Continue to live or exist, esp. in spite of danger or hardship.

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